Tuesday, March 27, 2012
Education vs. Incarceration: The Real Cost of Failing Our Kids
Middletown Mayor Daniel T. Drew, Middletown Youth Services Bureau, Local Interagency Services Team (local juvenile justice collaborative), and the Wesleyan Center for Prison Education invite you to join them on April 24, 2012 at 6:00pm to watch the documentary and engage in a discussion about how this issue affects your community. The documentary will be shown in the Daniel Family Commons located in the university's Usdan Center (77 Wyllys Ave) and parking is available in parking lot E located directly across the street. Refreshments will be served at 5:30pm. Please RSVP for this free event with the Middletown Mayor's Office at 860-344-3401.
Middletown CPTV Flyer
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Wednesday, February 22, 2012
Asset Message of the Week
Three minutes went by, and a middle aged man noticed there was musician playing. He slowed his pace, and stopped for a few seconds, and then hurried up to meet his schedule.
A minute later, the violinist received his first dollar tip: a woman threw the money in the till and without stopping, and continued to walk.
A few minutes later, someone leaned against the wall to listen to him, but the man looked at his watch and started to walk again. Clearly he was late for work.
The one who paid the most attention was a 3 year old boy. His mother tagged him along, hurried, but the kid stopped to look at the violinist. Finally, the mother pushed hard, and the child continued to walk, turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. All the parents, without exception, forced them to move on.
In the 45 minutes the musician played, only 6 people stopped and stayed for a while. About 20 gave him money, but continued to walk their normal pace. He collected $32. When he finished playing and silence took over, no one noticed it. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition.
No one knew this, but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the most talented musicians in the world. He had just played one of the most intricate pieces ever written, on a violin worth $3.5 million dollars. Two days before his playing in the subway, Joshua Bell sold out at a theater in Boston where the seats averaged $100. This is a real story.
Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste, and priorities of people. The outlines were: in a commonplace environment at an inappropriate hour: Do we perceive beauty? Do we stop to appreciate it? Do we recognize the talent in an unexpected context? One of the possible conclusions from this experience could be: If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world playing the best music ever written, how many other things are we missing?
Think about that piece I underlined and placed in bold. How often does this occur when we look at certain young people? How often might a person be written off because of what they look like or where they are from. How many teens have skills and talents to go either unused or unnoticed because we’re easier too busy to see it or we’re not looking in the right places. This story is just a nice reminder for all of us to be more aware of our surroundings and the possibilities that arise while doing so.
Thanks for all you do to support Middletown youth.
Best, Justin
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Tuesday, January 10, 2012
Friday, January 6, 2012
Asset Message of the Week
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Wednesday, December 28, 2011
White Out Night 2011
White Out Night 2011, a set on Flickr.
If you see a group of people wandering around Main Street tonight, it most likely will be the Middletown Substance Abuse Prevention Council and students from MHS' Dragons In Action and WWMS' Rams In Action. We may even be joined by some friends from Middnight on Main, since we're asking for people to have a safe New Year and they're providing a great way to have one. Wave, smile, or lend us a friendly honk if you see us.
Above are some pictures of Dragons In Action preparing for the event.
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DIA YLS Wrap Party
DIA YLS Wrap Party, a set on Flickr.
Members of our Dragons In Action group met with the Middlesex United Way's Young Leaders Society and Macdonough Elementary staff to help wrap presents for the YLS' first ever toy drive. Over 170 toys were donated and wrapped and sent out throughout the City to three local schools and to Parks and Rec.
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Friday, December 23, 2011
Asset Message of the Week - "The Ask"
To me, the take away from this is around “the ask”. So much good can be done but sometimes we’re afraid to ask or think that it may be too much work or more often than not we assume people will just say no.
This doesn’t just go for toy drives or even asking adults to participate in something…it also is connected to the way we utilize our young people in a community. Sometimes we take for granted their desire to help others or to be involved, whether it’s something random around the house or in the community. In the six years in this job, I’m continually surprised by how willing our teens are to get involved. Regardless of background or appearance they say yes; some of the kids who I thought were the least likely to participate are the ones that are the most surprised and eager when asked. Even with this toy drive, we held a wrapping party and asked members of our youth leadership group to participate and sure enough we had 10 students there that day with members of the Young Leaders and Macdonough staff. Some of the teens I had expected to be there, but several others I did not and they all had a blast.
With the craziness of the holidays staring us in the face, take a step back and see if you can identify one or two things to include a young person. It might be baking, it might be wrapping, it might be watching the game with you. But the key is “the ask” because we will never know what might happen unless we try.
Have a happy, healthy, and safe holiday weekend.
Thanks for all you do.
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Friday, December 16, 2011
Asset Message of the Week - Survey Reflections
Now that the smoke has cleared, we really have the opportunity to reflect on how a survey of this nature generates such positive outcomes in our community. This spring will mark the five year anniversary of the release of our initial survey and of the all the work that has gone into building a universal language community-wide around supporting our youth. The data released in 2006 was such an amazing springboard for conversations that took place in all parts of Middletown, from City Hall to schools’ staff meeting and PTAs, from afterschool programs to churches to civic organizations so many people were able to gather together around this framework and what our kids’ were saying about growing up in Middletown. With all the great work that has come from the survey I thought it would be a nice opportunity to briefly celebrate some of the initial key outcomes.
The first is around the use of students in sharing the results in the community. Dr. David Blumenkrantz who has worked with the YSB as a key advisor in this initiative insisted that when the results were released, that they be shown to a group of students even before key stakeholders like the Mayor or Superintendent of Schools got a chance to see it. Furthermore, no one outside of the students would get to see it until the big launch where the students themselves would announce the results along with a national facilitator from the Search Institute. Apparently, we were on of the first communities if not the first in this facilitator’s 30+ year career in this work, to co-present along with teens. What this also did, was set a critical notion that has carried with us throughout the first five years, and that is that teens need to be the driving force behind these discussions. By empowering the students to “own” their data, they were the ones who set the tone for any discussion that was to follow; their priorities would become our priorities.
One of the ways we’ve helped students promote their priorities was through a poster series aimed at increasing the percentage of an individual asset. A total of 30 students had a chance to create an individualized poster which were disseminated throughout the community. The posters can be seen here: http://www.assetpromise.org/uploads/pdf/posters/AssetsPosters_AllSchools.pdf
The final outcome that I wanted to note came directly from a conversation which with then-Mayor Sebastian Giuliano. As highlighted in many of the above posters, one of the most glaring statistics from 2006 was that only 19% of our kids felt valued by the community. As we discussed this figure and asked the questioned how do we improve on it, one of the answers became “we involve them in our community’s decision making process”; and from there the City’s Youth in Government program was born. It became a great example of the intentional and purposeful involvement of teens and of the simplicity of asset building (we’re holding these meetings anyway, why not involve them). Today the program has expanded to include 12 boards/commissions within the city and involves close to 20 young people each year.
In the next week, we’ll be shipping off this latest batch of surveys to be tabulated by the folks at the Search Institute and will be eagerly awaiting the results. A lot can happen in five years and this is a great opportunity for us to revisit what and how we’re doing as a community in supporting our youth. It’s possible some assets will increase while some might need additional improvements but the importance in data like this goes beyond the numbers because it gets us talking about the “whys” and the “hows” that create real community change. I know these next several months will fly by but as the spring approaches, I hope that you will all find the time to take part in the community discussions that will follow the release of the results and in continuing your commitment to support Middletown youth.
Thanks for all you do and have a great weekend.
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Wednesday, December 7, 2011
Black, White, and Grey???
via ESPN.COM: BOSTON -- The 18-year-old senior was racing for a score as time wound down in the game against Blue Hills. Video shows Owens briefly raising his left arm and then lowering it as he approaches the end zone. The penalty nullified the touchdown, and Cathedral lost the game 16-14.
So its easy to understand the "excessive celebration" rule and how and why we would come to play in sports (especially high school atheltics - where sportsmanship can lead to life long lessons). But put into practice at that moment, it just feels wrong. Most can agree there is a difference between that and what Bills wideout Stevie Johnson did a few weeks back when he scored a touchdown the pretended to shoot himself in the leg (ala Plaxico Buress) and then mocked the Jet's own TD celebration. One seemed to be heat of the moment and reactionary while the other seemed to be calculated and choreographed. The rule via zero tolerance applies to both, but feels different when we allow each to be taken for its own merits.
I posted the video on twitter and had a quick back and forth with another follower and we both basically agreed that the rule makes sense but the application was off. But if you sit and think about it, the rule is the rule and was it really mis-applied? Many could argue yes, many no. For me, its really difficult to assess this situation. I enjoy taking real life examples and using them as teachable moments for the kids we work with but I struggle to really figure out what the take away is on this one? Is it that accountability is key and the moment you cross a line, whether its by an inch or by leaps and bounds, you have to be ready to accept the consquences. Or is the notion that there is a difference between intention and outcome and that rules have consequences that may miss the mark if we aren't using discretion and that judgement needs to be situational as much as it needs to be consistent (which is somewhat hypocritical I know).
Do our thoughts on this issue change if this the NFL as opposed to a high school game or that is was the championship or that it was in the forth quarter during the last drive? In the words of a tv commercial from my youth "I don't know, I'm asking". But I am very interested to put this in front of kids to get their opinion. At the very least it will lend itself to an interesting conversation.
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Monday, December 5, 2011
A Week of Survey Preperation
Last week we presented the Developmental Assets framework to the general community at the Middletown Schools Association monthly meeting as well as special presentation to Mayor Drew and members of the Common Council and Board of Education.
Leah Maille spent time in the WWMS cafeteria asking students to make pledges to take the survey seriously and answer questions honestly. A copy of the pledge is below.
Leah and I then teamed up with Dragons In Action member Leon Chandler to make our first PSA ever. Check it out below.
And between that all we prepared packets so that over 2,000 students have the opportunity to have their voices heard and let us know how we're doing as a community to ensure that all kids will grow up to be healthy and successful. Many thanks to Youth Services Bureau Advisory Board member Vinnie Senatore for volunteering with all us last week and intern Miles Nasta (who broke away from the Youth Yellow Pages project) to help make sure we got the survey items out on time.
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Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Nice Read on Juvenile Justice Reformist
A little over a year ago I posted some information from a fantastic workshop I attended centered around juvenile justice reform. It was facilitated by two sourthern judges from Alabama and Georgia who have done tremendous things around they ways police, schools, and juvenile courts all do their jobs and how they work together. Their progress came from a move away from the "zero tolerance" policies that have a habit of sending more kids to court that there probably should be and more towards graduated responses that more appropriately deal with normative teen behavior in a way that's both developmentally appropriate and situationally based as opposed to one-size-fits-all.
I bring this back up because there was a really nice write up on Judge Teske and his successes in the Washington Post not to long ago. Its a nice read on why this work is so important and some of the struggles associate with making these kinds of reforms. Hope you enjoy.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/judge-steve-teske-seeks-to-keep-kids-with-minor-problems-out-of-court/2011/09/21/gIQA1y8ZsL_story.html
We've done some work directly with them since that intial workshop and look forward to continue to partner with them through the Connecticut Juvenile Justice Alliance as one of the four communities in the state looking to be the early adopters to their work. As Judge Teske has said in the past, court and its resources should be squarely focused on dealing with the "kids who scare us not the ones who annoy us." Additionally, all kids should be allowed to make mistakes without the intervention of police is a really important notion to me. This does not equate to a lack of being held accountable but as a society we've criminalized a lot of things for today's juveniles while past generations were afforded a different set of consequences. From the article above:
Both men (Judge Huf and Judge Teske) admit to their own teenage trouble.To me, that is a really important question. I think with these types of reforms, right or wrong, agree or disagree, we as a community really need to ask ourselves some important questions around the systems we've created to "protect" our youth and evaluate if our goals are being met with the outcomes we've intended.
Teske recalls pulling a prank at age 13 that set off his school’s fire alarm. He recalls the mass havoc that ensued. The threat of arrest. The terror he felt.
His principal prevailed in insisting the school system would mete out the punishment. “Would I even be a judge today had I gone to jail that day?” he asks.
We're hopeful to faciliate some conversations during the begining of the new year around these types of questions on juvenile justice and later in the spring around some even larger questions based on our new developmental assets data which will be recently released around that time. I really hope you will join us in these conversations as we make Middletown an even better place for kids to grow up.
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Join Us!
Monday, November 28, 2011
6:30pm
Middletown Youth Services Bureau
372 Hunting Hill Ave
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Asset Message of the Week
When I was researching some topics to write about for this week’s Developmental Asset message of the week, I came across a very interesting program called Bank It. Given that “Black Friday” and the idea of “spending” is becoming a bigger and bigger part of the Thanksgiving weekend holiday this appears to be pretty timely.
Bank It is a collective program of Capitol One and the Search Institute (the founder of Developmental Assets) which works to improve financial literacy of teens and parents using a strengths based approach. The program “affirms that families who talk about financial challenges, values and choices together are stronger and make better choices”.
Some interesting facts that are posted on the site regarding financial literacy and families included:
• The average financial literacy score for high school students is an F
• 24% percent of teens say their parents discuss money management with them
• 75% of adults say it's important for adults to give financial guidance to youth but only 36% do it.
The Bank It site is separated into 3 targeted sections focusing on teens, parents, and workshop leaders. Each of the three sections focuses on their “12 money topics” and aims to teach teens and parents how to make positive money choices; become more comfortable with talking about and managing money; discover how to avoid common money traps; identify steps needed to reach financial goals and find resources to help them do it…..all while embracing the 40 Developmental Assets! If you are a youth worker/educator, you can also find a FREE downloadable curriculum.
You can find Bank It by going to http://www.bankit.com/. Enjoy.
For more information on Developmental Assets please visit http://www.search-institute.org/ and don’t forget go to http://www.assetpromise.org/ and make a promise to support Middletown youth.
Have a great Thanksgiving holiday. I am absolutely thankful to be in the position to give back to this community which has given me so much growing up and to have the support of wonderful people like you.
Best wishes,
Justin
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Tuesday, November 8, 2011
Youth in Government Program
Last night the Mayor and the Common Council swore in a group of Middletown teens to a number of boards and commissions in our community. This marks the fourth year that the City's Youth In Government program has empowered young people to be part of the larger decision making process in Middletown. The program was born out of the developmental assets initiative and more directly from the statistic that only 19% of our youth feel valued by the community. From what we know we are one of a very few programs like this in the state.
Prior to their appointments each student went through an orientation that included expectations, the role of a student representative, information on Roberts Rules of Order, and a discussion on professionalism (including attendance, presentation, communication, and preperation). What we may have forgotten was to let them know that at the end of their appointment oath they can say "I do" (luckily they were bailed out by Mayor Giuliano).
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Wednesday, November 2, 2011
Student Leader of the Year Speech
Middletown Youth Services volunteer and Middletown High Senior Leon Chandler was presented the Connecticut Youth Services Association "Student Leader of the Year" award at their annual conference held at the Aqua Turf on October 7, 2011. Here is his introduction speech and part (apparently we ran out of space on our memory card half way through) of Leon's acceptance speech. We've included the text of his entire speech below because even what we did catch on video isn't easy to hear.
IN THE SUMMER OF 2009, I WAS TWO YEARS INTO HIGH SCHOOL BUT DID NOT HAVE A SINGLE CREDIT TO MY NAME AND WAS GETTING READY TO START THE YEAR AS A FRESHMAN FOR THE THIRD TIME. I WAS SPENDING MY TIME GETTING INTO FIGHTS WITH OTHER KIDS AND DOING OTHER THINGS I KNOW I WAS SUPPOSED TO, .
WHICH INCLUDED BEING ARRESTED. THERE WAS A LOT OF SADDNESS AND ANGER BOTTLED UP IN ME AND AS I COMPARED MYSELF TO OTHER KIDS AND WHAT THEY HAD AND I DIDN'T, I USED THAT FRUSTRATION ON MY TEACHERS OR ANY OTHER ADULT WHO I CAME IN CONTACT WITH. I HAD NO GOALS OR EXPECTATIONS FOR MYSELF AND BECAUSE OF THE WAY I TREATED OTHERS, I THINK THEY THOUGHT THE SAME ABOUT ME AS WELL.
AND WITH THAT SAID, GETTING ARREST WAS THE BEST THING TO EVER HAPPEN TO ME. I KNOW MANY OF YOU OUT THERE ARE A PART OF JUVENILE REVIEW BOARDS, AND BECAUSE THIS WAS MY FIRST OFFENSE I WAS SENT TO THE ONE IN MIDDLETOWN. THE PAPER I HAD TO WRITE AS PART OF MY LIFE SKILLS PROGRAM I WAS REFERED TO, HELPED ME FIGURE OUT WHAT MY GOAL WAS AND HELPED ME GAIN A DIFFERENT OUTLOOK ON LIFE. BUT WHAT REALLY MADE A DIFFERENCE FOR ME WAS WHEN THEY STARTED TO ASK ME TO GIVE PRESENTATIONS WITH THEM.
RIGHT BEFORE MY FIRST PRESENTATION WHICH WAS WITH A GROUP OF TEACHERS DURING A PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT DAY I WAS REALLY NERVOUS. I WAS ASKED TO TALK ABOUT WHAT BEING (OR NOT BEING) IN HIGH SCHOOL WAS LIKE FOR ME WHILE MR. CARBONELLA WAS PRESENTING ON THE 40 DEVELOPMENTAL ASSETS. I WAS NERVOUS BECAUSE I REALLY THOUGHT NO ONE WOULD SEE ANY VALUE IN WHAT I HAD TO SAY AND THAT THE TEACHERS WOULD JUST STARE AT ME LOOKING BORED LIKE I USED TO DO TO THEM ALL THE TIME. BUT THAT'S NOT WHAT HAPPENED AND AS A RESULT I FINALLY SAW SOMETHING IN MYSELF THAT I'VE NEVER SEEN BEFORE (AND I EVEN MADE TWO PEOPLE CRY).
I'VE NOW PRESENTED IN FRONT OF HUNDREDS OF PEOPLE, AND SAT AS A PANELIST ON THE STAGE OF THE BUSHNELL NEXT TO MEMBERS OF THE U.S .HOUSE OF REPRESENTATIVES. I'VE ALSO BEEN A MENTOR AT MY OLD MIDDLE SCHOOL, AND ON ADVISORY BOARDS FOR MY YSB AND FOR REPRESENATIVE JOHN LARSON. AND IF ALL GOES THE WAY IT SHOULD, THIS SPRING I WILL HAVE GRADUATED HIGH SCHOOL AND HOPEFULLY BE ENROLLED IN A COLLEGE FOR NEXT FALL.
BUT IMAGINE IF I DIDN'T GET ARRESTED.
WHERE WOULD I BE?
WHO WOULD I BE?
WHO WOULD HAVE BELIEVED IN ME, WHEN I DIDN'T BELIEVE IN MYSELF?
PLENTY OF PEOPLE HAD ALWAYS TOLD ME WHAT TO DO, BUT WHO WOULD HAVE SHOWED ME? AND THERE'S A REAL IMPORTANCE IN THAT. BECAUSE KIDS LIKE ME OBVIOUSLY WANT TO SUCCEED BUT WE DON'T ALWAYS KNOW HOW. AND EVERY DAY PEOPLE EITHER BURY US OR BUILD US UP BASED ON THEIR EXPECTIONS. THESE ARE THE SAME EXPECTATIONS THAT YOU GREET KIDS WITH EVERY DAY AND REINFORECE THAT YOU THINK HIGHLY OF US OR YOU DON'T.
TWO YEARS AGO, I WOULD HAVE NEVER SEEN MYSELF UP ON THIS STAGE AND NOT THAT I COULD EVER HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY TO, BUT THAT I WAS NOT EVEN CAPABLE OF DOING IT IN THIS FIRST PLACE. BUT BECAUSE OF THE YOUTH SERVICES BUREAU I MET PEOPLE WHO SAW SOMETHING IN ME THAT I COULDN'T SEE IN MYSELF. BUT WHY SHOULD WE WAIT FOR SOMEONE TO HIT ROCK BOTTOM BEFORE WE REALIZE THEY NEED HELP. HOW MANY KIDS LIKE ME FALL THROUGH THE CRACKS BECAUSE THERE'S NO STABLE FOUNDATION AT HOME AND NO ONE ELSE REALIZES HOW IMPORTANT JUST ONE CARING ADULT CAN BE IN OUR LIVES. AND THAT ONE ADULT CAN CHANGE HOW WE VIEW OURSELVES AND GIVE US THE OPPORTUNITY TO PUT THAT NEW VISION OF OURSELVES INTO ACTION. SO THE NEXT TIME YOU SEE SOME KID THAT EVERYONE ELSE HAS GIVEN UP TO THE POINT WHERE THEY'RE ABOUT TO GIVE UP ON THEMSELVES, I WANT YOU TO ENVISION THEM UP HERE ON THE STAGE AND HELP THEM BELIEVE IN THEMSELVES IN A WAY THAT I'VE LEARNED TO BELIEVE IN ME.
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Halloween Party at I Have a Friend Youth Center
Here are some pictures from Dragons In Action's 4th annual "Haunted Hallway" Halloween Party at the I Have a Friend Youth Center.
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Friday, October 21, 2011
"You Might Want to Change the Channel"
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Asset Message of the Week - Reading for Pleasure
As I was trying to decide what to focus on for this week's Developmental Asset Message, an email came through from Ann Buchanan, the wonderful Media Specialist at Middletown High School. The email introduced Teen Read Week, which sounded interesting and I decided to look into it further. Annually, the Young Adult Library Services Association celebrates Teen Read Week during the third week of October. This is a time for parents, educators, librarians, and other caring adults to encourage the youth in their lives to read for fun. As we know from the Developmental Asset survey that was administered in 2006, only 21% of our teens in grades 7-12 stated that they read for pleasure. It is up to us as a community to help improve that statistic. Reading can be fun, relaxing, free and give our kids a safe activity to take part in. Reading for fun can also translate into better performance at school.
Some suggestions for encouraging reading with teens are:
• Visit the public or school library with a teen to attend a program or to check out books.
• Set aside time each night for your family to read.
• Give books or magazine subscriptions to your teen.
• Share your favorite book with a teen.
• Model a love for reading to the teens in your life.
To find out other ways that you can celebrate Teen Read Week in Middletown and also help instill a life long love for reading and learning in youth visit:
http://www.ala.org/ala/mgrps/divs/yalsa/teenreading/trw/trw2011/home.cfm
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Wednesday, October 19, 2011
The Middletown Substance Abuse Prevention Council is offering mini-grants for prevention and/or youth development programs and events. Each grant may fund an organization up to $1,000 for their efforts to help young people stay away from risky behaviors such as drugs or alcohol. The application can be found on our website and the deadline is November 18th at 4:30pm. If you have any questions please feel free to contact co-chairs Justin Carbonella (860-854-6030 / carbonellaj@mpsct.org) or Felicia Goodwine-Vaughters (860-852-1080 / fvaught@rushford.org).
If anyone is interested in joining the group the next meeting will be on Tuesday, November 29th at 3pm at the Middletown Youth Services offices located on 372 Hunting Hill Ave.
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Tuesday, October 11, 2011
Youth In Government Program Seeking Applications
On our website you will find a copy of the application (in both word and pdf form), a description of the program, as well information on the participating boards and commissions). Please share these documents with any students who you think are interested in politics and/or making a difference in their community. Please also inform students that the deadline for applications is Friday October 21, 2011 at 3:00 p.m. We will also drop off a packet of information to each high school.
If you have any questions or concerns, please feel free to contact Melissa Robinson or Justin Carbonella at (860) 854-6030 or email Melissa at robinsonm@mpsct.org.
This is an empowering opportunity for students to have their voices heard in the community!!!
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